Last week I had a HUGE dilemma. Really, it was catastrophic.
It was the weekend, I had somewhere to be for the first time in forever, and I HAD NOTHING TO WEAR.
Before I continue, please let me say that this is not a post about fashion.
It’s not about clothes, nor is it a story pertaining to any of my previous shopping trips to the mall.
You’re welcome. Now, I’ll continue.
So how could I fix this? Without even thinking much, the solution was pretty obvious to me.
Clearly, I needed to go shopping ASAP and spend all my money on a new wardrobe.
But then I stared at my closet for a good fifteen minutes. I mean I just stood there and stared at it.
Here, this is my closet…
I know, it’s a disaster. I’ll get around to organizing it this weekend. Promise.
But here’s the deal…You see that piece of white wall to the left? Well, behind that wall is a continuation of my closet. The problem, however, is that when I stand in front of my closet and try to decide what to wear, I can’t see anything that’s behind that wall, all the way to the left. So what happens? The clothes that’s all the way to the left of my closet…I forget that it exists.
And then I cry because I have nothing to wear.
So here’s what I did…
I shuffled my closet around and shifted the stuff that was all the way to the left, right to the smack center of my closet. And after doing so, I had a brand spankin’ new wardrobe.
Oh…and I spent no money.
Now I’m sure some of you are reading this and thinking um…okay…so she rearranged her closet…so what?
So why do I think this is important enough to write about?
Because it was a small change that made a HUGE difference.
It seems that these days, young people in particular, whenever we’re faced with a dilemma, we tend gravitate towards brash solutions.
We hate our jobs? We quit.
We feel that our life is devoid of meaning? We pack our bags and take a 7 month trip to Europe…all expenses paid by our student loans that will end up consuming our entire adult life leaving us broke forever.
Now yes, granted, sometimes drastic measures need to be taken. That’s fine.
But more often than not, we just need to relax, take a deep breath, and see things differently.
The solutions to our problems are not always great, giant, life-changing events.
I once read in an article somewhere that just a tiny change in your daily routine can impact your mood dramatically.
So listen, tomorrow…when you wake up hating life because you’ve got to go to that job that’s terrible… take a different route. Drive with the windows down. Decorate your office. Buy a plant and put in your office. Read a book during your lunch break. Go take a walk during your lunch break. Have a 30 second dance party. You might just see that it helps a bit.
But maybe your job REALLY sucks. Maybe you really DO need to quit. Do you really need to quit right away? How about you try making small changes leading up to that? Be smart about it. Don’t just get angry one day and throw in the towel. Figure out what else you can do. Figure out what else you WANT to do. Network. Work on a project on the side. Cultivate a new skill. But do all those things while you have a job.
Because a huge change, a big change…that might not be the best kind of change at all.
You’re feeling that you’re lacking purpose in your life and suddenly feel the urge to take off for a year and travel around the world like a nomad?
That’s cool. But is that the only thing that you can do that will give you that sense of purpose and adventure? Can you maybe make it a point to travel on the weekends? Can you join a club of some sort? Can you find an organization to volunteer at? Can you take up photography? Can you learn a new language?
You see…that problem you have…there may be more than one solution.
You just need a different perspective. You need to see it differently. So change the way you see things.