Sometimes I don’t know what’s wrong with me.
You see I think, a lot.
About my past.
About my future.
And a lot of times, it’s unsettling.
Growing up is hard. A lot harder than I ever expected.
I think back to when I was younger and I hear my mom telling me, “Slow down. Stop trying to grow up so fast.”
I thought she was crazy. Why would I NOT want to be a grown-up? There was nothing I wanted more.
The past few years have been hard for me. But at the same time, they’ve been a gift.
Being a young adult is unsettling. It’s unsettling in every way possible. In every way imaginable.
There’s no rule book.
And on top of that, more than 75% of what we’re taught in high school and college is pure crap. Stuff we’ll never need to know.
We graduate and we’re left to figure out the things that we DO need to know.
We’re left to figure out what our world means to us. We’re left to discover what and how we wish our lives to be.
We’re left to figure out what we want to do. Who do we want to be?
And before we do that, we’re figuring out, every day, who we actually are.
There’s nothing scarier.
But although it’s scary, there’s nothing more beautiful.
This is the time when we get to create. We get to create everything.
How do you want your life to be? Think you have an idea? Great!
Now go and take steps every day to make that happen.
Dont’ stop until you get there.
And believe me, you’ll know when you get there.
I have a problem sharing things. Sometimes this is bad. We’re taught as early as preschool that we need to share. We can’t be selfish. Being selfish is bad.
But not now. Not when you’re a young adult. Not when you’re trying to create a future for yourself.
Make decisions for yourself.
You’re the one that will have to live with them, so make sure they’re not for anyone else. It’s okay to be a bit selfish.
This time in our lives can be the best if we choose to make it that way.
But that’s not to say that it’ll be easy.
It won’t be easy.
Because as focused as you are on your vision for your life, for your future, there will be times where you lose sight of where you’re going.
You’ll question everything.
You’ll freak out.
You’ll cry in your room and eat ice cream.
You’ll hope no one finds out.
This is the time that you’ll need to focus the most on what you want. You’ll have to remember who you are and where you want to be.
And that’s why it’s important to create for yourself a vision board. So you don’t forget these things.
I have one. A virtual one. It’s here if you’d like to check it out.
It’s a place where I keep all the images of things that inspire me. Things that I’d love to achieve one day. Quotes that resemble my feelings about life. It’s where I go to dream. It’s where I go to think.
But most importantly, it’s where I go when I start to question my life. It’s where I go when I forget what I’m working towards. It’s where I go when I lose myself in the craziness of life.
And I find myself, again, every time.