We’ve been lied to all our lives. You know that, right?
We’ve been taught, through society, through movies, through our parents even, that things are always going to be better in the future.
From as early as elementary school, we look at the middle schoolers and think they’re so cool. We can’t wait to be just like them. So we spend our days dreaming of what it’ll be like to be in middle school, failing to understand that those are some of the most awkward years of our lives.
Later when we make it past those awkward years, we’re in high school. As freshmen we look at the seniors and can’t freaking wait to be the oldest. We can’t wait to go to prom, our senior trip, for graduation even.
Then we’re seniors and we go to prom, we go on our senior trip, we graduate. But by the time we get there, we’re too busy focusing on college acceptance letters to really enjoy those things that we looked forward to for so many years. It passes by just like that.
It’s kind of sad.
In college we bitch and complain about the amount of work we have to do. We hate being in the library, studying. We look forward to graduation. We think that it’ll all be better when we have jobs, when we’re making money. We’ll be working hard, but at least we’ll be making money. Surely, this is when we’ll be happy…
Then we finally get jobs! Most of us, anyway. And when people ask us if we’re happy we say something like…”well, not right now, but I know that once I get a promotion, I’ll be happy…this is an entry level job and I hate it, but I’ve got to start somewhere.”
Then we get promoted and we’re still not satisfied.
So tell me, when are we happy?
Once I make partner…
Once I have a house…
Once I find a husband…
Once I have kids, that’s when everything will be okay.
Once I travel to Europe…
Once I get my Masters degree…
Once I get my PhD…
Now let’s see…
I, personally, haven’t done any of those things. So what does that mean? Does that mean that the past 21 years of my life have been a total waste? Because that would really suck.
It’s no secret that people want to be happy. There are 505682894735 million books written on happiness, the secret of happiness, how to understand happiness so you can be happy, etc. etc. etc.
So why aren’t we?!
I have a huge problem with people who tell me not to worry, that I have all the time in the world ahead of me to do the things I want to do. I hate it because it makes me focus so much on the future that in doing so, I lose sight of what’s in the present.
I think this happens to a lot of people.
So if you want to do something, please do it.
If you want to change careers, please do so.
If you want to get your masters, go for it.
If you want to start a company, who’s stopping you?
Just do it NOW and love every second of it.
But in doing all the things you want to do, make sure that you’re actually living your life. Make sure that every day you stop for a second and appreciate everything that you have because it’ll pass you by and you”ll miss it.
You can be happy now. Today, not tomorrow. Not five years from now.
Happiness doesn’t depend upon your next accomplishment. Because if you’re awesome, you’re always going to have another success ahead of you, another milestone to reach.
And really, it would be such a tragedy to have never enjoyed life because you spent all your time thinking about the future.